Oops, I just gave away the point of this blog post in the title. I guess now you don’t have to read the rest. Ok, well let me give away the end of Bedtime Stories, the recent Disney flick starring Adam Sandler. The movie builds up a great premise and then, in characteristic Hollywood fashion, destroys it at the end for the sake of a gooey, feel-good romp.

I don’t mean to say that the movie I saw tonight had a happy ending. Please don’t misunderstand me; I love happy endings. But this film had a tortuously gleeful ending with a completely different pace and a whirlwind of notes attached as an epilogue.

For those who don’t watch TV or follow movies let me sum up the plot of Bedtime Stories. Adam Sandler (oops, “Skeeter”) is a disenchanted maintenance staffer at a Ritz-style hotel in Los Angeles. There’s a complicated back story about why he happens to stick around this place, but the important thing that the movie drills into your head about this character is that he’s fun loving and big-hearted (in an overly-stereotyped working-class sort of way) but he can’t catch a break in the big bad “real world.” Enter two adorable child actors (who do a great job with some of the clunkier dialogue and situations actually, one of the highlights): Skeeter’s niece and nephew. Their mom doesn’t let them do anything fun (take everything about Skeeter’s character and reverse it, she’s even a school principle which in this movie means that she hates all fun…right). So, put these three characters together with some movie magic that happens whenever uncle Skeeter tells a bedtime story and you have a plot right? Surprisingly, yes. Despite the zany stories, a freakish guinea pig, and the sometimes harshly drawn characters (a somewhat deranged foreigner takes the role of the clown) there is an honest charm to this film. We realize very quickly that the world of the movie is both quirky and quixotic. Sometimes the good guy wins, sometimes he loses. The “unexpected” (in child movie terms) occurs and we actually see some growth and change in the characters that stay on screen (for whatever reason Cortney Cox is given almost no role, even though she was prominent in the marketing of the film). We also learn some saddening facts about the limitations of fantasy. Skeeter can’t just snap his fingers and win a Ferrari and the girl of his dreams. The kids can’t get their dad back. Above all, the movie actually engages us in its world by making us laugh with the characters instead of just at them.

So, what happens in the third act? Like many movies that I have seen I got the feeling that a producer must have been pitched this story and thought “ok, we can work with that.” What happens is that much of the creative thought in the movie reflects the talent of the script writer and the director. But…there are breakfast cereals to sell. Something sugary and sweet just has to be inserted to insure that everyone knows that this is a “feel good film for the entire family.” Anything hurtful or at all troubling must be smoothed over by a wave of “happily ever after.” As innocent as the first part of the film is (there are brief references to parties and hot tubs but the movie’s satiric portrayal of Ms. Hilton, a character who plays an early love interest, stays PG) someone at the top of the food-chain must have thought: you know, I’m just not sure that people will like this movie. A movie with any sort of real message (as goofy as the surroundings may be) always runs that fatal risk of being misunderstood. This is why, I surmise, the third act of the movie fails. The third act fails miserably even according to standards set up by the protagonists. Rather than resolving the dilemmas of fantasy and reality we get an ending of pure, over the top, saccharine sweet fantasy. The final ten minutes of the film make Skeeter’s bedtime story fantasies look miserable by comparison. I mean c’mon. Are audiences today so jaded and hateful that they need a complete refutation of Sandler’s early line “in real life there are no happy endings”? Isn’t there some space here for creativity, for wit, for teaching kids and families that at least some element of an ending may be bittersweet? This goes beyond the stylistic problems of shifting gears at the very end of a story. Movies, like any form of entertainment, are not there just for our pleasure. Surely the bigwigs who put together films like Bedtime Stories must have gotten a college education and read some Aristotle. Drama should free us, not lull us into passivity–giving us just enough inoffensive fluff that we are willing to fork over money for the DVD and a trip to Disneyland. I’m not saying that I expect every movie to be “artsy” and “sophisticated.” False sophistication is just as bad as earnest mindlessness. I am saying that I expect every movie to live up to its premise of delivering heart and not just gratifying the audience in a third act folly.

As the title of this post makes obvious I’m going to recap some of what Caroline and I experienced at our second Birth and Parenting Class.

We actually showed up quite early tonight. It’s hard to be precisely on-time when you are walking, and Caroline wanted to be sure that we had time to find the room we would be meeting in. Our teacher is a certified nurse who has a very friendly and personal touch. This week our activities were varied and not only included groupwork, lecture, and a short video, but also physical action. We spent time practicing relaxation techniques. Mostly Caroline spent time practicing and I kept her company.

This week we covered pain medications, comfort techniques, joys and concerns, and miscellaneous questions. We also spent time reviewing the all-important stages of labor. Even if we don’t remember all of the details of this class, what we are learning should definitely help us feel more confident when things start happening in seven weeks.

I have a confession to make: my wife has been blogging much more than I have lately. She wouldn’t call it blogging, but her status updates on Facebook are rapidly approaching the size of a small book.

As for myself, I’ve been busy with…life. I just graduated in May. I started working for my dad last week. This week I went with Caroline to an ultrasound, a class on breastfeeding, and the first of six class sessions on birth and parenting. Life is really changing and it seems harder for me to express what I’m feeling these days. Life will really change big time for me in August. By that time we will have a little newborn to deal with and I will transition to working part-time for my dad and full-time as an intern at my church (note to self: fill out that application soon).

Change is good. Change is confusing. Change is different.